As your loved one ages, their needs will inevitably change. Over time, you may notice signs of both healthy and unhealthy aging. It can be difficult to discuss signs of unhealthy aging and the additional support your loved one may require as a result. Recognizing that your loved one needs more care can be an emotional conversation for both of you.
If you have recognized signs that your loved one is experiencing memory loss, balancing their independence and their safety can become complicated. You cannot be certain of how your loved one will react, as some seniors can feel that suggestions of increased care may threaten their autonomy.
While you will have to lead the conversation, reassuring your loved one that they will remain involved in decision-making will go a long way. Prior to bringing up your concerns, it is important to outline a plan for what you will say and how you want to lead the conversation. Compiling reasons for your concerns beforehand can prepare you for their response.
By entering your conversation prepared, you increase your chances of your loved one receiving the support they need. Defining clear examples of signs you have noticed and trying to understand how they may be feeling are great places to start. With clarity and compassion, you can create a space for your loved one to remain open to your suggestions.
The following information is not intended to make this discussion sound easy, but it can provide you with the insight you need to navigate it. Below, you will find guidance for talking to your loved one about specialized senior memory care.
Use positive language and tone
As you define your plan for your conversation, keep in mind the importance of how you present your concerns. Your tone of voice can make a big difference, especially if your loved one struggles to remain present in conversation. Think about the setting you think will allow them to feel most comfortable, too.
When discussing options, focus on the benefits. You can highlight how stimulating memory care activities and social support will help ease strain on their daily life. If you paint a lifestyle picture of how your loved one’s life can change for the better, they may feel more able to connect with and consider your suggestions.
Many seniors do not know what options are available, and clearly identifying how memory care services can help them may change their minds if they initially oppose. Talk about solutions, answer their questions, and continue to check in to be sure they are understanding you.
Do your research
In line with highlighting the benefits of memory care, you can identify which support options you think will be the best fit. If your loved one is concerned about their independence, you can find memory care services that allow them to continue living at home.
The benefits of in-home care with a specialized memory care team can allow your loved one to continue living at home. As you’re navigating your conversation, you can provide specific offerings from your chosen providers so your loved one has a clear idea of their opportunities.
If your loved one has been diagnosed with dementia or Alzheimer’s Disease, research how your loved one’s condition may progress. By presenting potential future concerns, without causing alarm, you can highlight the importance of beginning dementia or Alzheimer’s memory care now instead of waiting until you are under more pressure later on.
Call on a family member for help
If you are able to share the responsibility of this conversation with family members, you may want to consider a collaborative family meeting. This can allow your loved one to hear multiple trusted perspectives.
Involving other people can remove some of the pressure from you, which can help you avoid caregiver burnout. If you can gain support for yourself, then you can better continue offering your energy throughout the process.
Before calling a family member into the conversation, however, be sure to first determine what will allow your loved one to feel most comfortable. If they have a hard time in group settings, then stick to a one-on-one conversation. If you are able to virtually include family members in the room, you could propose that as a middle ground option.
If you do not feel your loved one would benefit from a collaborative meeting, ask a family member to help you prepare and discuss options. Ask for help doing your research, talking to your loved one’s doctor, or calling memory care services providers.
By teaming up with support for yourself, you provide increased support for your loved one, too. Creating a safe and understanding environment is crucial, and involving others with whom your loved one is comfortable will enhance this.
With Golden Care, you and your loved one will be able to collaborate with licensed Care Professionals on a customized memory care plan. With stimulating memory care activities and
social support, your loved one can receive the care they need to continue living as independently and as safely as possible.
Contact us or call 760-828-5201 for a complimentary assessment, and find the support you and your loved one need.